This question was sent to me and I've thought on it and this is my advice. First off this is my opinion based on my dad and I, clearly every father-daughter relationship is different but this is how I would handle this situation.

First off I believe that when you're dating you're looking at the guy as in hopes to marry him someday. I am also a firm believer that I should find a guy like my dad. Now obviously it your dad wasn't a good example to follow then that won't work but if you had a dad who was always there for you and was good to your mom and your family then he's a good example to base your standards off of.

Every girl wants to find her price charming and though you may go thru a few frogs to get there eventually you'll find the right one.

Now back to the question! You've just became "official" and yet that boy may have never met your dad. This first thing you need to do is have the boy meet your parents. Your dad needs to get to know the boy before he can straight down dislike/hate him espically if your dad has never met him. I am a believer that your parents should be getting to know that boy with you. They need to spend time with you and the boy together as a whole.

If your dad meets the boy and spends time and gets to know him and still doesn't like him then there's a couple things that need to happen. If your dad tells u to break up with him you really need to sit down with your dad and talk to him. You need to ask your dad why he doesn't like him. Though it will be hard to listen to your dads reasoning and respect what your dad has to say. You need to know where your dad is coming from and what he's seeing in the guy verses what you see. Once you and your dad have discussed what your dad is feeling then you need to come to a conclusion on what your parents feel is best for you.

Now if your parents are divorced this is a little harder. If your dad doesn't live near by then you still need to talk to him and see why he doesn't like your boyfriend. If your dad doesn't want to know your boyfriend then you need to talk to the parent that lives with you and see what they think.

No matter what happens in the end know that your parents are only trying to protect you and they love you more than anything in the world You're parents will never do anything to harm you and always have your best interest at heart.

I hope this answered your question! Please comment below what questions you have about school, homecoming, crafts, babysitting, work, hair or anything else I'd be happy to answer them!

Kayla :)

Now many of you know that I've babysat for years and I'll admit I've learned lots of things over the years. It's not something I just became perfect at the first time. Some of you maybe at the age where you're just starting out or maybe you've done it for years! Either way I hope these tips can help you!

1. Snuggles are the best! When you babysit for the first time you may find this uncomfortable and that's ok but eventually overtime you'll start to build relationships and bonds with the kiddos you watch.

2. Don't be afraid to have fun! Though you need to be in charge and the children should know you're the boss that doesn't mean you can't have fun. I've learned that if I jump in with the kids and enjoy myself they tend to follow direction later on better. It's also way more fun to have fun!

3. If all else fails and you can't get them to listen or stop crying when a parent leaves... Take selfish! I generally keep a children's app on my phone just because sometimes it's the only thing that works. Now in the picture above I was fixing her hair and that's why she had the phone but there are a number of reasons I will not hand over the phone but sometimes I do give in.

4. Spoiling is ok! Now many may disagree with this statement but I think it's ok as long as its done right! Obviously I drive so I like I take the kids out for ice cream or the park or let them pick where we have lunch. Now obviously not all of you drive and not all parents are ok with it so there's other ways to spoil! You can spoil by bringing a special treat that they can only have after their parents have left or bring a new game to play or a movie to watch!I

5. It's ok to say no! Though this is one of my biggest down falls and I admit to it yet I can't seem to figure out how to change it, you're aloud to say no! When someone asks you to babysit and you have plans it's ok to say no you don't always have to change your plans.

6. Bedtime won't go as well as the parents say it will! No matter how good of sleeper the child is bedtime is never going to be the way the parents tell it will be. Why? Well because you're not the parent! Older children will try to get you to let them stay up longer but be firm and if they leave their beds just keep putting them right back in their room. Now infant-toddlers may cry longer for you or not go down as easily for you. Now what I do isn't for everyone and I understand that. You need to do what works for you. Personally if a child goes into their crib without a fight I then walk out and close the door. If they cry or fuss for a few minutes I let them. If they fuss or cry for more than 8-10 minutes I then will go back in and pick them up and either rock them till they fall asleep or bounce them and walk around with them till they fall asleep. This is what I've found to work. What I've found is that for most babies if I let them cry or fuss for a few minutes then they fall asleep on their own without my help.

7. Meal time! So for some of you may not need to fix meals or snacks but so many you do. So what do u do when a child won't eat? Again this is what I do and what I'm comfortable with but you need to do what works for you and what the parents want you to do. I personally believe that a child needs to eat atleast half of their meal or snack but sometimes it's just not worth the fight to get them to do that. So what do I do? I encourage the child to eat the food and before I let them up from the table they're to eat as many bits as they are old. For example if the child is 4 than they need to eat 4 bits. Sometimes if you have them count their food then they'll realize they like it and will continue to eat.

8. Communication! Though it can be awkward and sometimes hard and I still struggle with this sometimes, you need to talk to the parents! Before the parent leaves make sure they tell you everything you need to know and be sure to ask question if you have them! When the parents return be honest with them! If Katie was throwing toys at her brother then tell them that! If there isn't anything really to tell them simply say we had a good night, the kids were well behaved.

9. If your babysitting during the day this won't last long so enjoy it while you can! During nap time is a great time to clean up the toys, straighten up the house from lunch or do the dishes if you have some. Also during this time is a great time to give yourself a few minutes to relax... Watch t.v., read a book or rest with some music playing. But be sure to take sometime to chill it makes all the difference!

10. You'll have rough jobs! With that said it's also the most rewarding job! Remember this tips and find your babysitting groove!

Please comment below any of your babysitting tips! Also comment below any questions you have or any hairstyle requests! Check back next time for a new blog!

Kayla :)

    In honor of school starting up again I thought I'd talk about high school. I know a lot of 14-15 year old girls that are getting ready to start high school and some of them have asked me questions about it so it had me thinking. If I could go back and tell my 15 year old self the things I know now about high school what would I say. Here's what I've come up with, now obviously not everyone will have the exact same experiences but that's okay because that's what makes you who you are!

        First off I just want to say that I was SO scared to go to high school. I was so scared but I begged my mom to home school me! She wouldn't thought, so I went to school!
    Dear 15 year old me,
        Stop begging your mom to home school you! You'll love high school! You'll quickly learn that it's a different world than middle school but that's okay it's a good thing. You need to learn first off that it's okay to be yourself no matter what other people think about you. Don't let other people determine who you're going to be. You're Kayla Raines and you're loveable and a great friend. It's okay to have fun and be crazy and just be a kid. Enjoy high school don't rush growing up. Remember that God loves you for you and not what someone else wants you to be.

    Here's the thing about high school...your friends will change. No matter what your friends change. Now some are very lucky and they keep a few close friends all thru high school but for most that's not the case and your friends will change and you'll have a variety of friends from different grades, just no this going into high school and it will make the transition much easier. I'm lying to you I've been there and seen it happen, plus it happened to me so I know this to be true. You'll start off with unbeatable 4 friend group but that group is going to change as time goes on and some of you get boy friends and a few of you may just happen to go to the career center and that will change the dynamic of the friendship as well. Drama club will be the one thing that brings you all together. Cherish that time because it will be something you miss deeply. Oh and btw you'll lose your best friend from when you were little, I'm sorry to inform you of this but looking back the warning signs of it happening were always there. Don't dwell on it too long she wasn't worth it anyway. Don't worry about having a bunch of friends. A girl who is popular may have a lot of bodies around her all the time but a girl who has friends is never alone. 
    When you graduate you'll realize who your true friends are because they will still be there for you even after you graduate. You'll find that your true friends will be the ones who will make an effort to talk to you and make it important to be in your life. Hold on to those friends they're the ones you want in your life, there the friendships that will last and the ones that will be most important to you.

    Here's the bad news there will be heartbreak, sadly that's part of life. When you try to get a prom date it's not as easy as it is in the movies! There will be a boy and will have a crush on him but he's going to break your heart so don't waist your time an over him, he's not worth the tears! You'll have a million crushes and some will turn out to be more than a crush and some may even turn into relationships. Some may last forever but most will not, sadly that's how high school dating goes. So you need to know that up front that there will be heartbreak. When that happens it's ok to cry, or be angry or run and hide or confide in your friends. Though it's easy to get caught up in the poor me feeling, kick it to the curb as quickly as you can! You're better than that boy that broke your heart! He's not worth your time, God has someone better out there waiting for! Though it seems so big at the time one day you'll realize that he wasn't meant for you and one day when your older you'll realize how small that relationship was in comparison to when you find true love.

    The best advice I ever got in high school was to enjoy it! Everyone will tell you to enjoy high school because before you know it, it's over! But don't fret you'll have so many amazing memories that it will make it all worth it! You'll have so much fun in high school it really is the best time of your life! You'll have experiences that will last you a lifetime and you'll have great memories with your friends. In the end it won't matter how popular you were or how fancy your prom dress was! All that matters is that you enjoyed it and that you created memories that will last forever!

Thank you for reading this post! I hope it was a blessing to you! Please comment below if you have any questions about anything girly that you are wondering about!

Kayla :)

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