What do you do when the boy you like is one of your best friends. I think he might like me but I don't know for sure if he likes me.
I was recently asked the question above and I was truly puzzled by the question. So first off I just want to say that though I've never been in the exact situation I'm writing about what I would do if I was in the situation.
First thing right off the bat and this is the honest truth you can never really know for sure someone likes you unless you were to directly go up to them and ask them. Who am I kidding though no one goes up and just flat out asks someone if they like them especially when you're young. It's just not what we do as girls, we deeply want to know but we never would go ask.
Secondly it's really hard to like your best friend because you don't want to ruin your friendship if he doesn't like you. I was 10 years old when and I had a crush on my friend that was a boy, now mind you it was way easier to be friends with boys when you're 10 so I had lots of friends that were boys. This one boy and I both had crushes on each other when we were little but they never meant anything and later when we were older we talked about how we'd never actually have dated one another because we were just two completely different people. Obviously I was too young to date then and everything was just a crush no matter if both of us liked each other. My advice would start off with a question. Do you value your friendship with that boy? Depending on the reply the advice could go both ways. Would you feel bad if you no longer had a friendship with that boy or would you not care if you stopped being friends?
If it were me, I would examine the friendship closely and push aside the fact that I like him or have a crush on him. Now I'm not saying that when you're in a relationship that you aren't considered friends I'm just saying that when you express that you like him your friendship is going to change and that's what I would focus on first. Could you live without the friendship? If you can say yes to that question then I'd tell him you like him but if you can't I wouldn't say anything because chances are you're crushing him because you have a good friendship with him not because you actually like him. If these feels are all of a sudden I would wait it out a few months and see if you still feel the same way. Personally I wouldn't say anything if I valued the friendship highly. I'm guessing since he's your best friend that you probably do and if you do then it's best to make sure you really feel the way you do and it's not just a short term feeling before acting on it.
I really hope this answered your question! Feel free to comment below any other questions you may have or if you want to see a hairstyle or craft done! Be sure to check back next when I talk about a babysitting tip! :)
Kayla :)
First thing right off the bat and this is the honest truth you can never really know for sure someone likes you unless you were to directly go up to them and ask them. Who am I kidding though no one goes up and just flat out asks someone if they like them especially when you're young. It's just not what we do as girls, we deeply want to know but we never would go ask.
Secondly it's really hard to like your best friend because you don't want to ruin your friendship if he doesn't like you. I was 10 years old when and I had a crush on my friend that was a boy, now mind you it was way easier to be friends with boys when you're 10 so I had lots of friends that were boys. This one boy and I both had crushes on each other when we were little but they never meant anything and later when we were older we talked about how we'd never actually have dated one another because we were just two completely different people. Obviously I was too young to date then and everything was just a crush no matter if both of us liked each other. My advice would start off with a question. Do you value your friendship with that boy? Depending on the reply the advice could go both ways. Would you feel bad if you no longer had a friendship with that boy or would you not care if you stopped being friends?
If it were me, I would examine the friendship closely and push aside the fact that I like him or have a crush on him. Now I'm not saying that when you're in a relationship that you aren't considered friends I'm just saying that when you express that you like him your friendship is going to change and that's what I would focus on first. Could you live without the friendship? If you can say yes to that question then I'd tell him you like him but if you can't I wouldn't say anything because chances are you're crushing him because you have a good friendship with him not because you actually like him. If these feels are all of a sudden I would wait it out a few months and see if you still feel the same way. Personally I wouldn't say anything if I valued the friendship highly. I'm guessing since he's your best friend that you probably do and if you do then it's best to make sure you really feel the way you do and it's not just a short term feeling before acting on it.
I really hope this answered your question! Feel free to comment below any other questions you may have or if you want to see a hairstyle or craft done! Be sure to check back next when I talk about a babysitting tip! :)
Kayla :)